The boundaries that I didn’t even know I needed…

Hi Mama,

Kara here ❤️

I used to be a friend collector.
I loved knowing endless people and being the one always at a happy hour. In LA, my entire business was built on my social life — through relationships I built a business, wrote a book, and even met my husband.

Then I became a mama.

Suddenly, my capacity for endless friendships took a hit.
Who I was… changed completely.

I found myself in an identity crisis. So much of who I thought I was was built on being known, being seen, being out there. And now, motherhood had shifted everything.

I barely had time to feed myself, let alone go out, meet new people, or “run the town.”

I felt shame, sadness, and loss.. all at once.

Two years of a quieter life led me to a quiet knowing:
​Boundaries.
Curated and intentional relationships.
Saying no without guilt.
Choosing presence over performance.

Motherhood taught me the boundaries I didn’t know I needed.
It taught me that overgiving myself to others, no matter how much I loved them, left nothing for the work that was mine to do.
​It taught me that stepping back, protecting my energy, and slowing down could actually grow my life, my work, and my joy.

As @confidentwomenclub beautifully put it:
​“The way women can quietly disappear to protect their peace, cut their circle in half, fall in love with their creative work, and come back fully healed with boundaries and a business should be taught in schools.”

Motherhood, as it turns out, didn’t take from me.
It gave me the permission, the space, and the clarity to finally show up as myself, fully, intentionally, and with boundaries that honor me.

With love,
Kara 🤍